Study Shows Sex Ed helps Teens

By Stephfon Guidry

While politics, finance, and gas prices rise in popularity it is still important to take a step back a look at personal wellness and health. A study done on teens, showed that teens who received sex education in school are more likely to wait on sex and more likely to use contraception when engaging in the act. The study did not differentiate between abstinence-only and sex education programs but researchers have concluded that sex education does not promote sexual activity or risky behaviors.

The study included data from the 2006-2008 National Survey of Family Growth, which included results from teens knowledge of “how to say no to sex”, “how to use birth control” and their first experience with vaginal sex. The sex education programs included information on ways to delay sex and the proper use of birth control. While the abstinence-only programs did also include some instruction on the use of birth control.

The results show that about 66% of females and 55% of males received some sort of instruction on abstinence and birth control. 20 percent of the students received instruction on how to delay sex, 16 percent of young females and 24 percent of young males, got NO instruction on sex education at all.

The smallest cohort reported information showing they were the most likely to engage in sexual risky behaviors. Of the teens 77% of young girls and 78% of young men reported that they had sex before they turned 20. And for young adults with no sexual education both numbers jumped by a 10 percent increase.

“It appears that talking with adolescents about sex — before they first have sex — seems to be what is important, regardless of the specific subject matter,” said a researcher of the study. (Huffingtonpost.com) Communication and health awareness for young people is key, if parents and families are to change these risky behaviors and enhance the quality of the lives of young people.

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Mister Tough Love – Warning 18+ ONLY

By Thomas Clark

After one hour of a grueling work out I lay in the locker room and the smell of musk filled my noise. The sound of rough grunts and clinging metal filled the air. Extremely tired, I was greeted by a deep baritone, cinnamon colored guy in his mid-20‘s. He had a Spanish accent mixed with some street swag. My mind proceeded to drift elsewhere as he started to change out of his gym clothes.

As each layer of clothing came off, I couldn’t help but to glimpse over. Stripping his tank top off, his body glistened with sweat with muscles bulging from a hard workout and a tattoo reading “tough love” on his upper back. He then proceeded to take off his pants down to nothing, briefs full of juicy man ass. I was turned on immediately! However, I thought to myself, “he does know I’m laying here right?! As if on cue he turns and offers me a smile, while his hand grabs his man package. I couldn’t help to be taken off guard, especially when the next statement was, “join me in the shower“. A statement made in his demanding heavy Spanish accent.

Hesitant to move not knowing if this was a joke, or a serious gesture. He makes his way to the showers inching his briefs off with every step. With a final look back, a smile and a head nod in the direction he was walking, I knew he was to be taken serious. No sooner then I reached the shower doorway, I’m snatched up and pushed down to my knees by Mister tough love. Every inch of his manhood sliding in and out of my mouth. The taste of sweet pre-cum filled my mouth’s taste buds. I was in ecstasy! I felt myself being lifted, turned around and bent over! I knew it was going down when I saw the condom wrapper hit the floor!

With nothing but water, saliva, and the lube already on the condom. My boy hole was pried open by a 9 inch cock, that wanted to probe and adventure deep into my inner most sanctums. His grip was strong and his thrust was relentless. Pushing deeper and deeper with every ecstasy filled motion. His moans filled the showers and his demands were to be met. He pulled out and ripped the condom off, while pushing me to the floor again. With a finale moan he let out his man juice all over my face!

With a smile, he stated “see you again thanks chulo”. I sat there in amazement and disbelief at what just happened. The last thing I saw was the tough love tattoo on his back As I came out of my daydream, Mister tough love was gone. As for my adventure deeper into this jungle of muscles and metal, I was looking forward to the workout I needed to do when I finally got home!

What is Your Fantasy?

By Thomas Clark

Disclaimer:  For those of you who are ashamed of your sexual fantasies. This article is definitely for you!

After one lip-smacking hot pocket, some Netflix and a bowl of salad, I began planning out this year’s sexual agenda. When it comes to sex, I’m all for trying new things. New sexual positions, new encounters and even new sex partners. How else will you keep your sex life vibrant by performing the same habitual vanilla routines? Just like the quote says “life begins where your comfort zone ends“, the same can be said for good sex. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, amazing sex should not be hard to come by!

We all have fantasies that we in the corner recesses of our minds entertain. Or for most it’s vicariously living through their X-rated DVD collection. This is as close as some will ever get. While others, who I commend, let their freak flap fly. Since when did this generation become so taboo? Why eat vanilla down to the empty ice cream container? You only live once and every minute counts. It’s blunt to say this; however someone has got to stand up. Haven’t we learned anything from Rihanna’s S&M lullaby, which we all love to sing in the club? Or Ludacris’ what’s your fantasy?

A new plan is in order; we will call this “operation orgasm”. The mission is to reach an orgasm derived through one of your sexual fantasies. Whether it is Whips, chains, leather, bondage, chocolate covered BJ’s, whip cream on the nipples, slings, and or any other fantasy that seems far removed from vanilla sex. Embrace what is really you, sexually. I’m telling you to go out and frolic, however make sure you do it safely!! Are you up for the challenge?!

Sexercizing

By Thomas Clark

2012 is here! With that being said, how in hell are we going to work off all the holiday pounds? The pounds that piled on from Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s eating. It was non-stop going “H.A.M” on the baked macaroni and cheese with collard greens. The bottom line is that it’s time to snap back in shape. Hitting the gym is fun, works up a sweat and some good eye-candy is thrown in the mix. However, hitting the sheets can have the same desired effects with a much-needed holiday hiatus release.

As I was looking for new exercises to perform to shock my muscles, the one that I overlooked was sex. Research shows that there is a link between weight loss and a healthy sex life. Not only does it help release stress and anxiety from your daily routine. It can be an intense and very fun way of dropping unwanted weight. Dubbed “the ultimate exercise machine”, you’re capable of burning 150 to 250 calories on average. As I continued to read the WebMD article, while it has the effects of weight loss it can also have an overall effect on your mood. Building you less prone to frustration and over eating. I surmise it’s because who would want to look out of sorts in missionary.

And who said sex can’t be fun and beneficial? The reason why it is so effective is because sex is that one “exercise” that is not considered to be boring. So to starting this year off correctly, I would say hit the gym as well as hit the sheets. Lose the weight and seek the instant gratification. Just like working out, remember that performing this exercise routine safely is best.

2011 Final Thoughts: There’s more to come!

By Thomas Clark

As this year transitions into the next, most of us will be proud to say that we may not be where we want to be in our love/sex life. While others are clinging on to each other in a warm-hearted embrace for what the future might bring. Whatever your position is regarding your reflection back on 2011 in respects to this topic, something we all can agree on, is that 2012 is going to be even more kick ass.

Dealing with the consequences of 2011 flings to booty calls to relationships. It can be safe to say that we still have not had enough of this past time. Start by setting things in motion for the do’s and don’ts of 2012. Approaching situations differently but still leaving room for adventure and new experiences.

The SEX of 2011 was great, a year jam-packed with frolicking and youthful encounters. The stable, off and on, or slim to none RELATIONSHIPS empowers us with knowledge for the future. The understanding we gained from both is notches under our belts to say been there done that or let’s do it again!

All aboard the Sex or Relationships train! Here is to leaving 2011 baggage behind, getting excited about the future and moving forward. Whatever path you decide to take whether sex or relationship, 2012 is going to have its share of fun!

Microbicides: The Forgotten Protection

By Atiya Jones

Condoms are good, but a lot of people don’t use them; mutual monogamy doesn’t always work; and, abstinence is somewhat of a joke. So, how else can someone protect themselves from HIV ? Microbicides might be just the thing. Similar in concept to spermicides, microbicides are a gel that when applied to the vagina or rectum, kill viruses before they can infect a person. Since the early 90s, researchers have been trying to develop microbicides to prevent HIV transmission. Along with adding another weapon to the war against HIV/AIDS, microbicides will be the first form of protection for women that   require a male partner’s cooperation.

What Are Microbicides?

A topical microbicide is any cream, gel, suppository, film, sponge or foam that, when applied or inserted into the vagina or rectum prior to sexual intercourse, prevents HIV or other sexually transmitted infections. Microbicides may even prevent pregnancy. There are no microbicides available yet but several are being tested on humans.

The “perfect” microbicide would have to be colorless, odorless, inexpensive, safe to use multiple times a day and for long periods of time, work against more than one STD, be available without a prescription, and be completely undetectable. It’s a tall order for a single product, but these demands are made for good biological, cultural and logistical reasons.

From a biological standpoint, women are physically more susceptible than men to HIV and other STDs. However, women must rely on their male partners to provide protection from these diseases. In some cultures, women simply do not have the power to insist that male partners use condoms, especially if its her husband. In addition, asking a male partner to use protection is sometimes equal to accusing him of having HIV or infidelity. For these cultural reasons, women must be able to use microbicides without detection.

What We Learned From Nonoxynol-9

Another advancement in microbicide design actually followed from the failure of spermicides in preventing HIV infection. The widely used spermicide nonoxynol-9 initially appeared to prevent HIV and other STDs in laboratory testing, but fell short once it was tested in women. In fact, nonoxynol-9 may actually increase HIV transmission because it causes small disruptions in the vaginal cells that may make it easier for the virus to enter. Among the lessons learned from nonoxynol-9 is that an effective microbicide would have to be easy on the cells in the vagina.

What’s in it for Men?

Women wouldn’t be the only ones benefiting from the development of microbicides. The Global Campaign for Microbicides also believes that a male would be protected if his female partner has HIV and uses a microbicide. There are also plans for a rectal microbicide (for use in the anus), which will help the gay community, especially men of color who have sex with men. Men of color now account for almost half of new HIV infections among MSM.

Clinical trials have been underway since the early 90s, but several different factors have conspired to keep an effective microbicide from reaching the market. First, many large pharmaceutical companies do not see microbicides as a profitable product. Without the financial and logistical muscle of Big Pharm, much of the development of microbicides has been left to academic institutions, nonprofit organizations, and small biotech companies.

While female-controlled forms of birth control have been around for many years, microbicides are the female-controlled forms of STD protection. While they are not a magic bullet for stopping the HIV/AIDS epidemic, microbicides promise to be an important weapon for women, who have been left unarmed in this battle.

Betcha Didn’t Know: Orgasms & Feeling Ill

By Deena Hamza

The first fact in my “Betcha Didn’t Know” series details negative side effects that come shortly after having an orgasm.

Yawning or Sneezing

Don’t feel embarrassed or insulted if your partner yawns or sneezes during sexual activity. Doctors have proven that centers in the brain responsible for orgasms, yawning and sneezing are parallel to one another. That’s right my G.O.Ps: Yawning or sneezing may be another tangible form of arousal.

Migraines

Some individuals can have severe headaches, or migraines, after having an orgasm. This could be a direct result of exciting the nervous system during sexual activity and reduced blood flow to the brain. For some individuals with a vasodilating medication may be required or medication used to relieve migraines. If your symptoms are not so severe, a hot shower and a cup of nerve relaxing chamomile may do the trick.

Abdominal Pain

Abdominal pain after intercourse can be a symptom of a prostate infection. For the average male it’s usually a result of intense contractions that occur in the pelvic floor (lower abdomen) after an orgasm. Exercises for the pelvis, like Kegels, can help strengthen those muscles and reduce overall muscle spasms in the area. Be sure to check with your doctor to ensure abdominal pain after intercourse is not a sign of a more serious issue like an infection.

Be honest my G.O.Ps, did you guys know that?

Happy Friday :) ~DEENA

Secrets – Sex for Money

By Thomas Clark

As the rain washes away the stains and remnants of the summer season, we look towards the horizon embracing what the future holds for us. The economy did its own thing this year, the stock market went up and down, and new business affairs we embarked on came and vanished. However, there is one business venture that never washes away or changes with the season. Yet it seems to mold and evolve along with the progression of time. This slippery slope path is only suitable for the bold and the daring. From the mean streets of the Red Light district and Hunts Point to the “classy” private homes of Long Island, Sex for Money never gets old.

The truth of the matter is that there is always going to be someone willing to pay the price for sexual gratification. Looks aren’t forever; as one generation diminishes, a younger tempting generation is birthed. Reasons for choosing this path between individuals vary but the objective remains the same. In the eyes of an escort…, Sex with the person is merely a profession with no feelings attached. Just a means to get what he seeks…..MONEY! It’s just another job with minimum hours and work is not always promised, to me this rules this occupation out of being considered an easy way to get cash. The point of view is different for the “customer” because they are receiving their demands by sacrificing something they have, besides dignity. So for them it’s just another receipt, another expense but without commitment to a contract or even a monogamous relationship.

In this unending process people tend to get hurt in many ways than one. Feelings can develop depending on the agreement; usually it’s just a one-time act in exchange for cash. A lot of times the subliminal thoughts of a real relationships being built interferes with business. The notion finally sets in that a person is seen as nothing more than a $$$ sign and no longer a human being.

I will close by saying, there was a time where I though well about becoming a gay porn star and in a way escorting because of the blood lust for money. The connection is that they are different but are driven by the same motive; you get paid to have Sex. Taking a famous quote from a movie:

“I’m using what I got to get what I want”. Hell, if that’s all you got, then you don’t want much!

The Buddy System

By Thomas Clark

As I read online, the buddy system is usually “a procedure in which two people, the buddies, operate as a single unit so that they are able to monitor and help each other…… wink wink. Where the buddies are often equals, the main benefit of the system is improved safety: each may be able to prevent the other becoming a casualty or rescue the other in a crisis.” A procedure that takes place in various activities such as swimming, scouting, and the United States armed forces.

In New York, the buddy system has its own presence in daily extracurricular activities. Activities starting from shopping, working out, dining, and ending with sex. On the subject matter of sex, the buddy system’s principles are the same with a little twist. Think of it as being “friends with benefits” adjacent.

What is the “Buddy System”? This is when already acquainted-everyday friends agree to take that step and hit the sack, oppose, to “friends with benefits, which is when you meet someone and come to that agreement to benefit each other in that department called sex. Two best friends, going the mile to do the do, deserves it’s own title, taking the words “employ the buddy system” to a new height and meaning. The initial response to the subject brings different reactions. Ranging from the good, the bad and the “O Hell No”.

The Good states: Two adults should be able to make an adult decision without it effecting the relationship that has been already built. It can be an action that will indeed bring the two closer, as well as, make for a good laugh. Thinking of it as a safe reoccurring one-night stand, no strings attached.

The Bad and the “O Hell No” are on the same sides, with the belief that friends, no matter how close, shouldn’t cross over into that field of bonding. Counter-arguing that it can indeed bring changes in the relationship, as well as, jealousy when one party decides to move on. Even though no string are attached, feelings can start to develop complicating things for the friendship down the road.

No matter the road you decide to take, remember for every action there is a reaction. Sleeping with a close friend is a dicey situation, because the dice can roll in either direction in the end. Playing Russian Roulette should never be an option when it comes to good friendships, dodging a bullet gives you a sigh of relief. But taking a direct hit can end something good, and once a good thing is gone it might never come back. Proceed with caution and Take Care!!!